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stephanie anderson ladd

Death Mother/Creation Mother

“The Creation Mother is always also the Death Mother and vice versa. Because of this dual nature or double-tasking, the great work before us is to learn to understand what is around and about us and what within us must live, and what must die. Our work is to apprehend the timing of both; to allow what must die to die, and what must live to live.” - Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Women Who Run With the Wolves

Maiden/Crone - SoulCollage®

This is what I love about studying the goddesses. I love seeing all that primal stuff just laid out there for us. For every young, beautiful maiden and light goddess there is an ugly, old one, a dark goddess, saying, “Don’t get too caught up in all that loveliness, Sister, there’s more to the story. Life ain’t no bed of roses all the time. You better smell the flowers while you can, cuz there’s some decay a comin’.”

The Graiae

And at the same time, just when you think life is a big, steaming pile of shit, the goddess of love and life comes waltzin’ in saying, “Hey, that ain’t all there is, Sister. Get your head out of your ass and start living cuz there’s beauty all around you. Life’s too short. And what is it you want to be doing anyway? Get to it! You better be loving yourself. Look in the mirror, Sister. You got it going on!

Venus at the Mirror - Rubens

For every Persephone, there’s a Hecate. For every Bast, there’s a Sekhmet. For every Athena, there’s a Medusa. For every Kali, a Lakshmi; for Rhiannon, there’s Cerridwyn; Cinderella/wicked stepmother; Snow White/Dark Queen, Vasilisa/Baba Yaga. You get it: Birth and Death. The endless cycle. Two sides of the same coin.

Athena by Klimt - that's Medusa's face on her aegis

But, wait! The wisdom of the divine feminine is that it’s not just black and white, either/or, crazy-ass, patriarchal dualistic thinking. There’s a triple goddess to be found here. She is life, itself. She is the in-between. She is the one who travels the bridge to both worlds: the conscious and the unconscious, the upper and the lower, the internal and external, masculine and feminine, and understands that it’s not one or the other, it’s both/and. She knows the third way that moves betwixt the worlds and doesn’t get stuck in the extremes. She is the wisdom that comes from living and knowing that birth follows death and death follows birth, but in between there is a life to be lived.

So don’t be fooled by those old hags, or that stone cold evil eye of the Medusa. She contains the beautiful, wise goddess Athena. And don’t be thinking that little girl don’t know nothing. She’s hiding the wise old hag within her very bones. Remember to live, Sisters, live it all. Remember to cherish the dark days as much as the glory days for they portend something else is coming. Nothing stays the same. And we can either wallow in the shit, complaining about the stink, or we can stand up and walk through it until we get to the other side, smelling like roses again.

And in case you forget, just walk outside and look up into the night sky. And there she is. Shining a little or a lot, for all to see. The Death Mother becomes the Creation Mother becomes the Death Mother becomes the Creation Mother and everything in between.

The Goddess Temple e-course on the Alchemical Goddesses starts in one month. We will be exploring the Death Mother when we meet Kali and the Creation Mother when we meet Yemaya and Aphrodite, that Great Mother Goddess of Love and Beauty, will be leading the way. What are you waiting for, Sister? Don’t miss the boat. Life’s too short.


About The Author

I am in a stage of new beginnings, of starting over on the other side of the continent from California, where I spent 38 years of my life. Moving to North Carolina was a bit of a shock to my system. Not so much culture shock but the shock of transplanting myself and starting over as a therapist, artist, and wild woman. I had to figure out how I was going to do it differently than I had been doing it. Because I knew I needed to change the way I worked outwardly to match the way I was feeling and moving inwardly and make it more playful, and at the same time, deep and meaningful. I knew I wanted to work with women primarily, to help them find their way on the heroine's journey to wholeness. I knew I wanted to bring more creative expression to my work because that was what was working for me--a way to bypass all the analytical thinking, perfectionism, and psychological paradigms largely created by men, and find more more intuitive ways of Being, Creating and Flowing with Life, in keeping with the Divine Feminine. I like working with the triple goddess: maiden, mother and crone, which describes the three stages of life as well as inner states of being--the innocent/adventurer; the nurturer and active doer; and the wise being who has the advantage of overview and doesn't care as much what others think of her as long as she is being true to herself. The triple goddess is found in most all cultures and traditions and helps us move out of dualistic thinking patterns and find our way to a more integrated and balanced way of life. As I forge a new path, I want to connect with women all over the world, to help women own their power, and to both explore and offer tools for self-discovery and self-care. Creating my interactive e-book, "In the Lap of the Goddess: Connecting With the Divine Feminine," and my Goddess Temple e-courses based on the workbook are my offerings, a way to share with women the knowledge and wisdom we all hold within us, reflected in the goddess throughout history, across time, and in every corner of the world.

Comments

3 Responses to “Death Mother/Creation Mother”

  1. Susan Wells says:

    Thanks for sharing again Stephanie! Funny this came in just as I have been looking at Medusa images.

  2. Stephanie says:

    Yes, Medusa started out as a beautiful Amazon warrior but was reduced to the ugly Gorgon when she transgressed with a god. Some myths say Athena did that to her out of rage, but other myths say Athena was Medusa’s daughter and they were deeply intertwined. Priestesses used to wear serpent-haired masks during sexual rites, and later people who tried to disavow the power and sexuality of the goddess, cast the Medusa head as a symbol of women’s sexual nature, equating it with something evil, like Eve and the snake. In ancient times, the snake was the chthonic symbol of the goddess, representing her connection to the earth and transformation through shedding the skin.

  3. Hettienne Ma says:

    Wonderful post. And do not forget about the link between kundalini and the serpent – Kundalini is Kali Ma, the Goddess Herself! blessings

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